letsavagoo 961 Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 My father in law was widowed last year and also lost his older brother recently who he was best buddies with. He is a lovely man still active in his late 70's. All the family rally round best we can He is lonely and would love some company. Are there any singles meets suitable he could go to. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mick2me 3,033 Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 I dont know about singles meets, but the Nottstalgia meet ups are pretty good. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
... 1,411 Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 If there isnt I bet if he could find a venue he would not be short of people that would help him organise something ,actually organising something like that would open up other avenues,a little support from you only if needed,community /church halls are a starting place for a base,moving on to do other things when a friendship metwork is set up Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The Pianoman 1,532 Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 , but the Nottstalgia meet ups are pretty good. So when's the next? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mick2me 3,033 Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 February? 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MelissaJKelly 2,120 Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 Get your Father in-law down to a meet up. Sure we could learn a lot from him and always guaranteed an enjoyable night. I'm also in agreement with Feb! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
The Pianoman 1,532 Posted January 22, 2015 Report Share Posted January 22, 2015 Started a new thread 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MelissaJKelly 2,120 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 Good idea Malcolm Quote Link to post Share on other sites
... 1,411 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 Dancing bowls skittles community meetings walking clubs,if he has mobility there should be something relativly close for him to ponder most of which should help with his circle of friends Quote Link to post Share on other sites
loppylugs 8,427 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 It is tough for a widow / widower of any age. FWIW, I got onto a site called "Widownet" back in 2000 after my wife died in 1999. WN is not a dating site, but a few of us met a person in the same boat on there. We had get togethers in various US cities. That's how I ended up in Georgia (grin). It does really help to talk to folks who have been through the same stress. Don't know if WN has a UK branch, they might by now. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
LizzieM 9,507 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 Well done Loppylugs for taking the initiative all those years ago. By joining Widownet the past 15 years have been happy for you, whereas you could have done nothing and been sad and lonely. Of course joining such groups depends on the character of an individual ....... my Dad was widowed at 66 but unfortunately there was no helping him, he wouldn't even go to the local he used to drink in with my Mum. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Robbie 39 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 My mam is the same, she is a widow and often gets lonely but Benjamin is keen to take her out. But if he does he better act like a gentleman and better behave himself, I don't want her getting into trouble at her age. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DJBrenton 738 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 Robbie, Benjamin's wife won't give him anywhere near enough pocket money to afford a mistress. He's leading her up the garden path I'm afraid. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin1945 16,139 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 OK SON. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin1945 16,139 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 I KNEW you'd 'rat me up DJB. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DJBrenton 738 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 I was a snitch at school dontcha know. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
carni 10,094 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 Robbie #12, I know benjamin can show your mam a good time. He is loaded. We had a whip round for him when we met at Bulwell. Unless he has spent it already. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
... 1,411 Posted January 23, 2015 Report Share Posted January 23, 2015 It wasnt me that put the button in. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
loppylugs 8,427 Posted January 24, 2015 Report Share Posted January 24, 2015 Lizzie #11. Late wife and I discussed what we might do if one of us were left over a cup of coffee one Saturday morning. I remember it in detail to this day. I told her if she were to find a nice guy she could love and be with, go ahead. I wouldn't be saying anything about it. She said the same for me, assuming a nice lady, that is. Some might call that a morbid conversation. Of course, neither one of us thought we would ever act on it and Al Gore had not invented the internet yet. Still felt like I was cheating though the first time I had a meeting with another lady. WN helped in that those kinds of things were discussed and you knew you really were not quite as weird as you thought. Of course it doesn't help when your kids think that the only kind of folks you would meet on the internet were weirdos and potential murderers. Just remembered there were some folks from the UK on that site. I haven't been on it for years now. It could also be a bit depressing as each new member signed in and told of their loss. It was really intended to be an online support group and it worked well. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin1945 16,139 Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 A friend of mine who's 70,but looks late 80s,is always on some internet dating site........he's out on dates every week,and tells me some right stories that he gets up to...................its little wonder he looks late 80s.............lol. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
loppylugs 8,427 Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 If he's got plenty of money he needs to watch out. There are those who would like to relieve him of it, I'm sure, or at the very least help him spend it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin1945 16,139 Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 You right Loppy,me and others have pointed this out to him...............he just laughs and says...''I know''......... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
loppylugs 8,427 Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 Famous last words eh? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin1945 16,139 Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 More than likely..........his wife passed about 6 years ago........poses the question at 70 +........would you do it ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
FLY2 10,108 Posted November 24, 2016 Report Share Posted November 24, 2016 Re # 21& 22. There's an old saying 'Always marry for money, because money can buy you an awful amount of love'. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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