Guest Posted October 3, 2015 Report Share Posted October 3, 2015 Good stuff Col,I was 21 and had a total breakdown. But I made a deal with myself- and have stuck to it..despite fights and rows!! I am a stubborn bloke who shuns fuss and meds,much to the annoyance of herself. We do get caught up in the hustle and bustle and forget to 'breathe'.what put me off about mindfulness was those bozo's on big brother all lap up that train of thought!! I loved Margie's trigger situation.. I have that happen to me,shoved me finger in!! I do get stressed easily.. And I hate those drowsy tables-(spelling?) Amiltriptyne and another Canaboid tablet they try to give me..I know my arthritis is getting much worse..but a little mowing,plenty of music, a drop of Goblin and you lot...I'm good for another 30!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TBI 2,351 Posted October 3, 2015 Report Share Posted October 3, 2015 I suffered depression as a result of work-related stress and was off work for six months. During that time I experienced a number of anxiety attacks, so I know what you mean DJ360, terrible. My employers, a supposedly caring FTSE100 company, did little to assist except reduce some of my wide range of responsibilities. They seemed more interested in how quickly I could resume them than my welfare. My otherwise excellent GP did nothing other than prescribe various anti-depressents, which didn't do much except produce unwanted side-effects. I never got referred to any sort of support agencies or specialists even though I asked continually. I only started to recover when I made the decision to give up work and retire early at 56. Best thing I ever did. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 3, 2015 Report Share Posted October 3, 2015 Me at 49!! TBI,is that my old mate on your profile pic?..trained on fish and chips..Tough of the track,Alf Tupper. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TBI 2,351 Posted October 3, 2015 Report Share Posted October 3, 2015 Yes, that's the bloke, Ian. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DJ360 6,738 Posted October 4, 2015 Report Share Posted October 4, 2015 Hi Margie H. Interesting what you say about a death in the family precipitating anxiety. Oddly, despite having had one big heart attack and two small strokes, I don't worry about my own health. But I do worry about others, especially my Kids and Grandkids. A year or so ago, a friend's son killed himself. This happened during a period of a few months when another relative killed himself and four others died far too young. So I suppose it's hardly surprising that I started to focus my own anxiety on my youngest daughter. She was, at the time living alone in one of those bloody awful modern apartment blocks in which you could close your door and be dead for a month before anyone noticed. She had boyfriend problems on top of work problems and I suddenly went from asking Mrs DJ if we'd heard from our youngest this week, to needing to hear from her every day, or even several times a day. I'd be texting her and getting really distressed if she didn't respond immediately. She'd come back to me angrily saying she'd been in the shower, or she was working, (She's a Fashion Designer who is currently working from home), or she'd just been asleep. One morning I found myself phoning my oldest daughter in tears, saying I hadn't heard from my youngest. Older daughter (Married, two kids etc..) just ordered youngest to to contact me. But that was when I realised I needed help. Youngest is now living at home because it's cheaper but is also sensitive to my issues. She keeps me informed if she's out, but not overly so. In return, I no longer seek constant re-assurance that she's ok. all down to CBT. I can thoroughly recommend this book: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Overcoming-Worry-Mark-Freeston/dp/1845296362/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1443920555&sr=1-1&keywords=overcoming+worry+by+mark+freeston+and+kevin+meares 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mercurydancer 1,104 Posted October 6, 2015 Report Share Posted October 6, 2015 DJ I admire you for your posts. Many of us suffer from depression, and it does take on many forms and has different causes, but its still horrible. I have had severe depression some times in my life, and it was not connected with anything nasty in my life, or anything like it. A very good doctor explained that there are various types of depression, and mine was linked to my brain just dumping a chemical, known as serotonin. Its origin is likely to be genetic. Although the manifestations of the disease were behavioural and very severe, it was of chemical origin. It is distinguished by the shut down of many bodily feelings such as pleasure, hunger, discomfort, thirst, and eventually pain. It is really quite odd not to feel pain. This could not be treated by any psychotherapy but needed life long medication. I have been taking a medication which stops my brain from dumping serotonin and I have been well for many years. Its called Mirtazipine. It is useless in cases where the person is undergoing mental trauma such as bereavement, (reactive depression) but for some types of depression ( and the doctors nowadays know these types of cases) it is very useful indeed. It is hardly enough for me to say, go to a doctor if you feel depressed, as many of the category I am in, do not feel anything at all, especially when the disease is well advanced but do trust the doctors. They know what they are doing. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DJ360 6,738 Posted October 7, 2015 Report Share Posted October 7, 2015 Many thanks for that kind response mercurydancer. I hope you continue to feel well. Col Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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