benjamin1945 16,166 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 Been a bit on the News and in the Papers today about some words that women find 'not nice' when they are refered to by them,even 'my dear' and others such as 'babe',sweetheart,Doll,..........just wondered what we on here don't like ? could apply to men as well. Obviously (I think) Duck would be one many of us use here in Nottingham,although my wife is a Southerner she mostly refers to me as duck having lived up here that long..........what do you call your nearest and dearest or even strangers ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jill Sparrow 10,307 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 #1 I call them by their names. Hate being addressed as darlin', sweetheart, flower, pet, luvvie etc! At times, I've been called Jilly, which I also dislike. My father always called me Liz. Don't know why. Perhaps it was short for Lizzie Dripping but my middle name is Elizabeth, so it could have been that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Cliff Ton 10,473 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 The one I had unintentional trouble with is referring to anyone female as "woman" or "lady". Normally I always use 'lady' because I always thought it sounded better and seems pleasanter than 'woman' which, to me, sounds a bit harsh and rough. But one 'woman' once told me that she didn't particularly like being referred to as 'lady' because she thought it had connections with ladies of the street and ladies of the night; she preferred to be referred to as a 'woman', which I'd always avoided because I thought they'd prefer the other. You just can't win. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
radfordred 6,284 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 31 minutes ago, benjamin1945 said: could apply to men as well. Being called 'dude' never sits well with me, and if you ever 'high fived' me you'd be hanging there looking stupid forever. When out with Mrs Red 'what can I get you guys' don't sit well with me, I get the look from Mrs Red 'leave it, leave it' I'm thinking uppercut uppercut uppercut! 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin1945 16,166 Posted September 29, 2016 Author Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 I'm with you Cliff-ton on the 'woman/Lady' thing..........i'm in favour of Lady,.........I do some 'meet/greet work and I welcome groups of Ladies,one group I see regular are Indian and always welcomed them with 'hello Ladies'........they are all Nottingham ladies,so the other week I tried 'ay-up me ducks'..........they all laughed and liked it...........they liked even more when they were leaving and I bid them 'sandi-pum'............which I 'd quietly asked someone for their word for tat'ta (Tamil) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
siddha 825 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 My women friends seem to prefer women or woman...........they do not like "Ladies" and my wife gets irritable when referred to as "Good Lady Wife". Me? I use "You" and it seems to work most of the time. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
hippo girl 1,995 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 I am a woman, sometimes a lady , never a babe , always a belle, but when a guy calls me " MY GIRL " then I'm " a woman in love " 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin1945 16,166 Posted September 29, 2016 Author Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 A Londoner friend of mine always introduces his wife as 'and this is the Tart'.......she don't bat an Essex eyebrow,.........don't think the Nottinham Ladies would like it though,......it is funny the way he says it........then theres an old schoolmate of mine who lives on Old Bestwood and has always hated being called 'Duck'...............................ive told him many times 'don't be so touchy Donold' 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
catfan 14,793 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 I wouldn't dream of introducing Mrs C with that word. ! Your mate must be a "Cad" sir ! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
benjamin1945 16,166 Posted September 29, 2016 Author Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 Dream ? I wouldn't dare !...........but to him and many 'Geezers' its a 'term of endearment'..........he'll even shout to his mate down the bar 'you and the tart wanna drink mite'........does a good rendition of 'Any old iron' as well................lol. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gem 1,430 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 Northern men have a habit of saying " the wife " as in the wifes over there/the wifes in the house I think they can not remember her name. Hubby being a Nottingham man always refers to me by name, proper gent. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DJ360 6,733 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 Thread just goes to show there is no right or wrong term of address. Also that there are those both male and female who will lay traps and enjoy springing them when the opportunity arises. I always describe 'Er Indoors' as 'Mrs Col', or Mrs whatever on forums because she is not involved in the discussion and few have met her. Generally, I find that avoiding the more obviously thoughtless terms has served me well, but there does always seem to be an element of damage limitation. Col ( Mr, Sir, Your Eminence etc., will suffice.. ) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DJ360 6,733 Posted September 29, 2016 Report Share Posted September 29, 2016 2 hours ago, Gem said: Northern men have a habit of saying " the wife " as in the wifes over there/the wifes in the house I think they can not remember her name. Hubby being a Nottingham man always refers to me by name, proper gent. How does he feel about being reduced to 'Hubby' ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
banjo48 928 Posted September 30, 2016 Report Share Posted September 30, 2016 I can't abide the terms "Hun" or "Chic". If introducing my good lady I will say "this is my wife J** " My term of endearment to her is "luv" normally. But she answers to many names such as "the Boss" "the one who shall be obeyed" and a few more in a similar vein or just plain old J** 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
catfan 14,793 Posted September 30, 2016 Report Share Posted September 30, 2016 I usually address Mrs C with the words "Ayup woman", as in "Ayup woman, are ya mashing ?" 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nonnaB 4,895 Posted September 30, 2016 Report Share Posted September 30, 2016 Loved all the terms of endearment used by you all. I have a sense of correctism unless I've been introduced to someone by their shortened name I always call them by their correct name. It doesn't feel right to me me to call them anything else. Even my son and daughter names I never shortened. I call my husband by the name he introduced himself to me because his name was unusual to me and it didn't seem quite right how I pronounced it. He calls me Ci ( pronounced Chee) don't ask why because I don't know. Its just an affectionate term. Much better than some mothers call their children " PULCE" which means flea. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
radfordred 6,284 Posted September 30, 2016 Report Share Posted September 30, 2016 Me, my Bother, Dad, Grandad, have always been referred to by our surname name with added ie or y on the end, the only time it shocked me was at a school parents evening when a teacher used it when referring to my daughter. I have had people I've known for years ask me what my first name is, I also could name the few people that only ever call me by my full first name, some of my top managers used my nickname which I always found strange? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gem 1,430 Posted September 30, 2016 Report Share Posted September 30, 2016 20 hours ago, DJ360 said: How does he feel about being reduced to 'Hubby' ? Its only on here that i refer to him as hubby !! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
loppylugs 8,429 Posted October 1, 2016 Report Share Posted October 1, 2016 I'm with banjo48 on this one. #14. I'm not sure if Mrs Loppy knows she's married to Loppylugs. I don't think she reads NS and I don't encouage it. A guy's got to have a bit of privacy to share his Nottingham thoughts. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Compo 10,328 Posted October 4, 2016 Report Share Posted October 4, 2016 Here in the far north men are often referred to as "Mannies". A firend who lives down in the village is Irish. Me and SWMBO (She hates that) refer to him as "Mannie Ireland." I simply call her "Missis". My ex used to call me "Simby-bimby" and I called her "Woggit" after her school nickname "Wogger Walker". It's odd how nicknames and terms of endearment occur and stick. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
DJ360 6,733 Posted October 5, 2016 Report Share Posted October 5, 2016 I often call my daughters 'Kid', though they are now 31 and 36. What they call me is best not reported. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tim in the North East 200 Posted October 5, 2016 Report Share Posted October 5, 2016 I worked for a while in Leeds in the 1970s and never got used to everyone calling each other 'luv' - not just friends, but work colleagues, people you met in a shop etc. In the 'she who must be obeyed' genre of endearment I heard a bloke turning round to look for his other half and muttering 'I seem to have been temporarily detached from the command module' 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
freckles 196 Posted October 5, 2016 Report Share Posted October 5, 2016 I hate it when youngsters serving in shops call me sweetheart and the like I don't find it very respectful. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nonnaB 4,895 Posted October 5, 2016 Report Share Posted October 5, 2016 Things are similar here but the language is formal or informal. Informal for friends and family and formal for politeness. Whenever my husband hears someone he doesn't know call him in an informal way it irritates him and asks if the person knows him as he doesn't know them. It doesnt bother me as in England even the queen is informal so to speak. I answer to formal and informal, but I do think its nice being extra polite using the formal way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
loppylugs 8,429 Posted October 5, 2016 Report Share Posted October 5, 2016 Things are pretty informal down here in the South. It's not uncommon for a waitress to call you 'hon' or 'sweetie'. I was surprised at first but now I don't think much of it. I get much more irritated when they refer to us as 'guys'. As I know others on here do. Had a funny experience at the Grayound bus station snackbar when I first came down here. The black counterman said to me 'watyuwant.' I said a hot dog please. He followed up with wahtyouwant? This followed on several times. He sounded like he was mad at me. LOL. Finally he said 'wheryufrom?' I replied, 'Canada'. So he said, 'Thats why you talk funny.' After that he treated me like a long lost buddy. I now realize a lot of folks talk like that here. It seems offensive at first but you get used to it once you realize they are just being friendly. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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